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Why are so many husbands cheating, when women like us are prepared to give our all to them–in fact, have given our all to them?  The reasons are numerous.  They don’t all make sense.  But I can tell you this: they’re likely to keep a man astray until you call him out on his behavior.

1.  Excitement.  I used to think this was a shallow reason for a husband’s cheating behavior.  And I still suppose it is.

 But, human nature being what it is, we all crave excitement or drama of some sort.  A lot of women get this through soap operas, novels, or their favorite movie channels.  And a lot of men get this through “tough guy” movies, sporting events–and affairs.

This doesn’t mean that you’re not exciting enough.  He wouldn’t be with you in the first place, if you hadn’t held a great deal of excitement for him.

It may be that he’s just immature.  Or it may be that things have gotten too routine for the both of you.  This is nobody’s fault.  It can be fixed–but not by husbands cheating on their wives!

2.  Ego boost.  Different “ego boosters” cheat for different reasons.  One husband may flirt with and try to bed every halfway attractive woman he meets, just to prove he’s still “got it”.  Another may cheat because he feels like his wife just doesn’t “get” him, and he wants to be appreciated in a way he doesn’t think he gets at home.

There is a third type of “ego cheater”: the Mid Life Crisis Man!  This one tends to act like a 13-year-old boy with a bank account.  Has he recently bought a new sports car, gone on a diet, and started dying his grey hairs?  Watch out!

If he’s not taking you in rides in that sports car, look out.  He could be cruising for an affair–or he might already be having one.  Husbands cheating in middle life are usually doing it to reassure their selves that they are still vital, virile, and attractive.  Unfortunately, they often wreck their marriages and families in the process.

You should always remember that we aren’t responsible for husbands cheating–that is a choice they made on their own, when they could have worked things out with us instead. 

Most men do feel like they’re doing something wrong, and they’re not likely to own up to it until they’re confronted with proof.  Only then can you begin to rebuild your relationship with your husband (or divorce him, as you see fit!).